Moncton Doula Care

Posted By Earthama on June 23, 2009

Perhaps because I am about to give birth any day and am in the ’tribal’ mode, today my thoughts seem to be on how disconnected we are. Sitting here this morning looking out the window my feet and hands want to connect with the earth. I long to breathe the fresh spring air and connect with Mother Earth. Many of us live in metal boxes many floors up surrounded by other metal structures where we are so disconnected.

This isn’t natural. Many of us are so disconnected from one another. Our nuclear living situations keep us from connecting with one another. They also keep us from giving and receiving the support that we desire. When giving birth there used to be other women that would gather to support the mother to be and welcome the new child. Seldom does this happen any more. Instead mothers are left to be on their own with little support from their partners, family or communities. The mother enters a hospital to give birth with strangers and is sent home with the child into her disconnected world.

If you are a single mother it’s even worse. You aren’t worthy of any support and don’t expect society to give you any either. Midwives and other wise ones from the past knew what it truly meant to be there for especially the mother, but the family as well. The communities were stronger because of it and they helped one another. They were connected with one another and the earth. There is so much pressure to live up to the expectations of society today. Yet what I believe we truly want and long for is that connection again. That connection with the earth and one another.

I choose to give birth in the comfort of my home unassisted. I would actually prefer to be birthing directly on the earth, but unfortunately the living situation at this time doesn’t allow that. Being a single mom there has been little nurturing and support. I have had to learn to give these things to myself or it doesn’t happen.

My wish would be that there was a community of wise ones to be here and help support this sacred event. In my heart I birth with my hands and feet upon the earth connected with the earthen base beneath me, the wise ones gather outside our sacred birthing space. They send love, peace, joy…good vibes to Mama and Baby. They are there after the birth if needed, but do not intrude. They are simply wise ones that know what is needed and when. They recognize the mother as a powerful being and know that this has been a rite of passage. Mother deserves to be nurtured and supported and she receives that from the community…and one day she shall give it to others as well.

So, I sit here looking out the window and there is a metal box with a blue roof blocking my view of the woods that are in the distance. I look above it and see a large antennae with a red light flashing. Choosing to look beyond that there is a beautiful blue sky that I can see a glimpse of with sunbeams shining off the windows. Standing and looking through the door to below there are a few stray dandelions with their roots deeply connected within the earth. I connect with the dandelion…I become the dandelion. Deeply rooted into the earth and connected to all that is I breathe.

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